Rimming

Rimming is when the mouth explores a sexy asshole, or feeling a tongue play between the buttocks. It can be done lightly, teasingly, playfully to a deep tongue fuck where the buttocks are spread for better access. Sometimes body contact is not even required, try spitting and then blowing gently; it can give unexpected pleasure. The unexpected thing about rimming is that there is a duality. You can lick the anal opening to show your submissiveness, grateful to be servicing your master, but it can also be a way to soften up the person you're about to fuck. No matter why and how you do it, enjoy it.

Should the butt be smooth, shaved or hairy? Like everything else in sex, it's a matter of taste. Some people shave between their buttocks because it makes them feel sexier. Others do it because they think it increases the chances of a tongue finding its way there. Some people don't want you to shave at all, that it's the hairiness itself that's hot. It's ok to express that you would find it hot if the person you're sleeping with shaves or doesn't shave, as long as you don't nag or demand it.

Something that is a bit over the top but still very simple and appreciated by some is to have your anal opening licked by someone who simultaneously sucks on a throat lozenge. It may sound a little strange but try it, it gives a slightly cooling, tickling sensation.

Lick first, anal sex later is a rule you can follow as anal sex can cause small cracks in the anal opening. Licking or being licked before anal sex is a great way to have safer sex as it can mean a very small risk of HIV transmission. Washing around the opening with soap and water before rimming also reduces the risk of transmitting intestinal bacteria. But don't let hygiene take over sex. Think about what is important to you, what gets you off. Is a fresh body the same as a body that smells like soap, or could there be a point to it smelling natural?