The anus

A pretty obvious reason why many people love to be stimulated outside, around and inside the anus is because of all the sensation there. The area around the anal opening contains lots of blood vessels and nerve endings. The presence of nerve endings means that there is a lot of sensation that can give pleasure, making it an area to explore. This is true no matter what gender you are, everyone can appreciate having their ass groomed. There is one difference: people born with a cock have a p-spot inside the anal cavity near the prostate, but more on that later.

Different terms used for anal sex are top/active for the person who inserts. Bottom/passive for the person being put on. Some are one or the other while others alternate depending on mood or the chemistry that occurs during sex. It is often referred to as being versatile or fickle.

How do I stimulate the anal area?

There are lots of activities that involve the butt. Below is a list of different things you can do with others and things you can do on your own. Given that people may have different attitudes towards activities involving the butt, ask questions during sex and listen to the person. The same goes for you too, feel free to experiment! But don't do anything you're not comfortable with just because someone else wants you to.

Rimming

Rhyming involves stimulating someone's anal opening with your mouth and tongue. The area is very sensitive and consists of thin skin that is often a little darker than the skin in many other parts of the body. The color is due to having more pigment in the area. You can start by kissing and licking along the buttocks. Try kissing and licking around the anal opening. Many people can appreciate the massage of the buttocks while the anal opening is getting attention. With a pointed tongue, you can penetrate the anal opening, which many may find particularly pleasurable. Alternate between licking with a wide tongue over the entire anal opening, fucking the opening with your tongue and paying attention to the rest of the buttocks with your hands. The person can preferably stand on all fours for you to get the best access. You can also massage the area between the scrotum and the anal opening or jerk off the person at the same time to increase the pleasure further.

Taking a shower and rinsing the anal area with water is sufficient preparation for rimming. Some people worry that it will smell or taste like poo, but this is quite unnecessary. Wash yourself using your hand and lukewarm water. More than that is not necessary. If the person has a reasonable attitude to hygiene, it will not taste or smell like poo. What can be transmitted via rimming is hepatitis A and B, but that is just via feces. If there is no trace of it, this sex practice is one of the safest you can perform. So lick and enjoy! In Stockholm, it is also free for men who have sex with men to get vaccinated against hepatitis A and B. Ask for this next time you get tested. 

The fifteen-second rule

To be able to envelop a cock or a couple of fingers, you need to get to know how your anus works. At the anal opening, there are two sphincters, one of which is voluntary and the other follows what the first one does. This allows us, for example, to decide when we want to poop and when we want to hold ourselves. It works in the same way when the anal sphincter encloses something, but the other way around.

Start by pressing lightly against the anal area with a finger, butt plug or dildo. Press lightly and wait a few seconds. After a while, the outer sphincter will open and the inner one will follow. Since the anal lacks natural lubrication, this can be a good time to lubricate it properly with water or silicone-based lubricant. Lubrication makes it both more comfortable and easier to insert something. If you haven't enveloped a cock before, it can be good to test with one finger first, two fingers and slowly increase to bigger things if you want. It shouldn't hurt too much! Take it easy and let your body adjust. And feel if it's your thing or not. Sometimes you have to try a few times before you learn what feels good and how you want it to work. You may also need to test yourself to see what you like to embrace. Some people love to be touched by a lover, others like external stimulation and a third likes to be tickled. You can vary endlessly when it comes to stimulating the anal area. 

Just inside the anal opening is the rectum, which bends slightly backwards towards the back about 15 centimeters before the colon takes over. Between the rectum and the colon is another sphincter that helps keep the rectum free of poop until you need to poop.

Communication

Remember to communicate with the person you're fucking. This doesn't mean you have to talk your way through the sex - but listen for excited moans or signals that it's not comfortable. Some people prefer soft, slow movements while others go for it hard and deep. The important thing is that you are in agreement and enjoying it.

Feeling fulfilled by a cock or dildo is something many people enjoy. Exactly how you want or have anal sex is up to you. Maybe you or the person you're having sex with wants to fuck lying on their stomach with their face in the pillow, or the person being fucked can take command by riding and thus have better control. Listen to your body's signals, anal sex should not hurt too much, then you may need to try a different position or use more glide. If you get caught, avoid being under the influence of drugs or alcohol, which can reduce your ability to sense if something is wrong and therefore increase the risk of injury - the same applies to creams and lubricants with a numbing effect.

Inside of the anal

The inside of the anal cavity is covered by a mucous membrane that is thin and sensitive, much more sensitive than, for example, the mucous membrane of the cunt. The anal mucosa is a type of mucous membrane that absorbs fluid, making it particularly susceptible to HIV and STIs. The anal mucosa does not produce its own lubrication (lube), so if you have penetrative anal sex, it is important to use plenty of lube to both enjoy yourself and avoid damage to the mucous membranes.

Many people enjoy stretching the muscles in and around the anal area by inserting something into it. When it comes to toys and butt plugs, it's important that there's a clear stop, so that nothing slips in during the fuck. Doctors are used to removing everything from carrots to duplicate pieces and Christmas tree ornaments. And to avoid a trip to the emergency room because you or your partner played with the wrong toys, stick to butt plugs with clear stops. 

The areas in and around the anal canal are also very sensitive to touch, especially when you are aroused. The anal area can also be used to stimulate the prostate. It is located a couple of centimetres into the ass, up towards the belly, and is nice to massage with fingers, a cock or a toy. Some people can have an orgasm through anal stimulation alone, and many people experience stronger orgasms when they are penetrated anally while masturbating or having oral sex, for example.

Avoid pain during anal sex

Different positions give different effects and enjoyment and there are plenty to choose from. Choose positions based on what you want to achieve. If you like long sessions, you should probably choose positions that give you power without tiring out too quickly. Nice advanced poses rarely last more than a few minutes. If one of you is a beginner in the field, it may be an idea to let that person's needs guide you a bit. Try it out, maybe a sideways position will be easiest? Or try it on your back with a pillow under your butt, doggy, face to face... Some positions that look cool in movies may be hopeless in real life and often we marvel at how long people can last. We often forget that a porn movie scene can take a whole day to shoot. So don't panic if you can't have anal sex uninterrupted for several hours.